Getting Through A Break-Up with No Third Party Involved
Is it true that you can still be friends with your ex? How can you move on from a breakup without any third-party involved? How do you set boundaries with your ex when your relationship ends? We talk about these and more (of our experiences with our exes 😝) here on this episode!
First, you need to learn to:
1) Allow Yourself to Grieve.
Acknowledge and honor your feelings of loss, sadness, and disappointment. It's natural to experience a range of emotions during a breakup. Give yourself permission to grieve the end of the relationship and allow yourself time to heal.
2) Seek Support.
Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a support network for emotional support. Talking about your feelings can provide comfort and help you process your emotions.
3) Practice Self-Care.
Self-care can coexist with empathy and compassion for others, recognizing the value of understanding and supporting their needs. Selfishness tends to lack empathy and may be driven solely by self-interest, disregarding the feelings and needs of others.
4. Reflect and Learn.
Use the breakup as an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Consider what you have learned from the relationship and how you can apply those lessons moving forward. This can help you gain clarity and prepare for future relationships.
“Learn how to set healthy boundaries ”
And if you absolutely can’t move on…
1) Allow for Healing Time.
Healing from a breakup takes time, and it's important to be patient with yourself. Avoid rushing into another relationship or seeking distractions to numb the pain. Give yourself the space and time you need to heal and rebuild.
2) Set Boundaries.
Establish healthy boundaries with your ex-partner to facilitate the healing process. Limit or avoid contact if necessary, at least in the immediate aftermath of the breakup, to allow for emotional detachment and space to heal.
3) Focus on
Personal Growth.
Use the opportunity of being single to focus on personal growth and self-improvement. Invest in activities that help you discover more about yourself, develop new skills, and work towards your personal goals.
4) Avoid Blaming Yourself.
It's common to question and blame yourself after a breakup, but it's important to remember that relationships involve two people. Avoid blaming yourself entirely or dwelling on what you could have done differently. Instead, focus on personal growth and learning from the experience.
5) Believe in a
Better Future.
Have faith that this breakup is a stepping stone towards a better future. Trust that you will find love and happiness again, and maintain a positive outlook on life. Stay open to new possibilities and embrace the journey of self-discovery.
Remember, healing from a breakup is a personal process, and everyone's experience is unique. Be gentle with yourself, surround yourself with support, and take the time you need to heal and move forward.
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From Episode 124 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “Getting Through A Break-Up with No Third Party Involved”