In Relationship: When to Hold on or Let go?

How do you know when it’s the right time to let or just keep on fighting? In relationships, we invest a lot of emotions, time, and energy and we know that the more we invest, the harder it is to let go. Our tandem is back with another AWJP x Shot of Sanity episode as we answer this v v hard question from our community!

What are some factors to consider whether to fight for the relationship or move on?

1) Communication

Healthy communication is crucial. If you're both willing to openly discuss your issues, listen to each other, and work toward solutions, it's a positive sign. But if communication is consistently negative, hostile, or non-existent, it might be a concern.

2) Mutual Effort

Both partners should be putting in effort to make the relationship work. If you're the only one consistently trying to resolve conflicts or improve the relationship, it could become draining and one-sided.

3) Personal Growth

A healthy relationship allows both partners to grow individually and together. If the relationship is hindering personal growth or causing emotional harm, it may be time to reevaluate.

4) Shared Goals and Values

Do you and your partner share similar life goals, values, and priorities? Misalignment in these areas can lead to ongoing conflicts.

5) Red Flags

Pay attention to any red flags of abusive behavior, manipulation, or mistreatment. These should not be tolerated in any relationship.

Ultimately, the decision to keep fighting for a relationship or to let go depends on your individual circumstances, needs, and feelings. It's a personal choice that should prioritize your well-being and happiness. If you're uncertain, consider seeking professional guidance from a therapist or counselor to help you navigate this decision.

Instead of looking who’s at fault, look at what’s the solution.
— Joyce Pring
 

From Episode 147 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “In Relationship: When to Hold on or Let go?”